It’s all about good vibrations and attitude.
Be positive and exude a good vibe. Not every guy’s a jerk nor is every girl shallow and after your money. There are great people out there so quit whining. Happy, positive people, attract happy, positive people. Your friends should also have the same attitude. Negative friends bring negative energy so NO opposite sex bashers!
Get off your backside.
Be proactive about your love life. Change the dynamic of what you’re doing to meet people. Do things you like to do such as volunteer in an animal shelter, hospital, business committee, coach a sports team, go to art galleries, libraries, etc. Hire a professional. Just get out of your comfort zone and change it up.
It’s impossible to love someone else and share your life with them without first loving yourself. It’s a cliché for a reason. You’ll continue to attract the wrong person into your life…….or no one at all.
You can’t custom order a significant other.
Life would be so much simpler, but you just can’t order a human being off a menu to suit your specifications. Even with matchmaker Vancouver, it doesn’t work like that. Love is about chemistry and a connection on many levels – physical, emotional and spiritual, and abou timing. Often the type of person who you end up being with doesn’t come in the package you were envisioning (but they’re even better than you ever dreamed possible).
Be open (that includes accepting a few extra pounds or two inches less).
This will increase your chances for finding love. The most successful love people are the most open in terms of what they are looking for and stay away from long, rigid lists. Boxes checked doesn’t equal perfect mate. Also remember that we are a multicultural city and someone of a different ethnic origin may be right for you. If that’s the case, remember to be respectful of each other’s values and upbringings.
Don’t lead someone on if you don’t like them.
It doesn’t get simpler than that. Honesty is the best policy and hurt feelings can be minimized if you say it nicely. The more time you spend with someone, the more disappointed they will be when you reveal your lukewarm interest. It can be difficult to say ‘no,’ but leading someone on is downright mean.
Relax and have fun. Stop trying to fast track intimacy, things need time to develop. Laughing and enjoying yourself with someone new is a good thing.
Nobody likes a drunk.
Impose a two drink maximum. It’s one thing to take the edge off and calm your nerves, another one to get blasted. Dates are about getting to know each other and making a good first impression and revealing just the right amount of information. Alcohol depresses inhibition and you are more likely to do something that you would regret later – so be cool and in control and limit your intake.
Tell the truth.
Lying about your age, income, education or personal stats is a slippery slope. It can be exhausting, and when the truth comes out, it’s hard to rebuild trust, if at all. According to Sigmund Freud, “we leak the truth from every pore.” Pretending to be someone you are not, will reduce your chances of meeting someone who is right for you.
Be on time.
Making someone wait for you, will make them anxious and uncomfortable, and could taint the rest of your date. Also when picking a location, make sure you can both see and hear your date.