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As the leaves turn vibrant shades and the air becomes crisp, autumn signals a fresh start and what better time to revitalize your love life? Fall is more than just sweater weather and falling leaves; it’s also the beginning of cuffing season, when singles naturally crave deeper, more meaningful connections. If you’re ready to find love, this is the ideal moment to take action.

Whether you’re newly single or have been dating for a while without success, working with a professional matchmaker or dating coach this fall can give your search for love a serious advantage. Here’s why matchmaking in the fall works and how to make the most of it.

1. 🍁Fall is the Season of New Beginnings –  Even in Dating

Much like the New Year, fall marks a shift into structure, routine, and renewed focus. Kids head back to school, work kicks into high gear, and people become more intentional, including in their relationships.

This is a great time to embrace new beginnings and refresh your dating profile, update your photos, reassess your relationship goals, and commit to getting out to a few singles or general networking events in your city. Fall brings a surge of in-person events and social opportunities in cities like Vancouver, Calgary, Edmonton, or Toronto. Nothing beats the magic of meeting someone face-to-face in a cozy, real-life setting.

2. 🙏Practice Gratitude in Dating to Attract the Right Relationship

Fall is also about reflection and gratitude, especially around Thanksgiving. It’s easy to get caught in the cycle of swiping and disappointment, but a shift in mindset can change your results.

Take a moment to appreciate what you bring to the table. A positive, grateful outlook makes you more attractive and more open to the right connection. Many of our matchmaking clients find that when they focus on self-worth, dating becomes more fulfilling and less frustrating.

3. 🍷Plan Cozy, Seasonal Dates That Spark Connection

Say goodbye to awkward coffee meetups. Fall offers endless date ideas that are both romantic and conversation-friendly:

• Enjoy fall colours in Stanley Park, High Park, or along the Bow River

• Visit a local pumpkin patch or go apple picking
• Attend a cozy wine or coffee tasting

• Cook a fall-inspired dish together, like roasted squash soup or a homemade pumpkin pie

As a matchmaking agency, we often suggest experiential dates that naturally build emotional connection and shared memories, which can be more powerful than dinner.

4. Build Consistency and Momentum Into Your Love Life

Fall’s built-in structure makes it easier to stay consistent and build momentum in your dating journey. Set realistic goals: message two new people a week, attend one singles event per month, or commit to one coffee date outside your usual type.

Hiring a dating coach can help you stay accountable, refine your strategy, and focus on progress over perfection. The goal isn’t to date more; it’s to date smarter. Remember that first dates aren’t about forever — just about getting to date number two.

5. ❤️Stay Open

Cuffing season can come with pressure to settle down fast, but rushing into a relationship rarely leads to lasting love. Instead, focus on building real-life connections while also staying balanced by investing in your own well-being.

Enjoy cozy solo time, self-care, and time with friends. The more grounded and confident you feel, the more likely you are to attract the kind of partner who truly complements you.

 Ready to Find Love This Fall?

Fall is all about fresh starts, gratitude, and meaningful connections. It’s the perfect time to put yourself out there and refresh your approach to dating. By staying open, consistent, and confident, you’ll give yourself the best chance of finding someone special before the holidays arrive.

If you’re serious about finding a committed relationship, working with a professional matchmaking service could be the game-changer you need.

At Divine Intervention Matchmaking, we help singles in Vancouver, across BC, Calgary, Edmonton and Toronto find compatible, long-term partners through personalized introductions and expert coaching.

Don’t wait for love to find you — take the first step today.

➡️ Book a free matchmaking Discovery Call now

➡️ Discover how our dating coaches can help you succeed

Written by Rob Klovance

First came the pandemic. Then came a broken ankle from a slip on a slick patch of grass. The year 2020 was off to a rough start for Mary (not her real name).

“I had given up – I just couldn’t be bothered to try to find someone for a romantic relationship,” says Mary, recalling those dark days. “And with COVID… yuck! The whole thought of dating someone was like a big fat ‘NO’.”

A designer who often works as a buyer of furniture and other items for film and TV sets, Mary had long ago sworn off dating anyone she worked with. In her early 60s, she felt no need to start anything new and figured she was fine on her own. Her last relationship had ended with the guy cheating on her.

But a call from Susan Semeniw of Divine Intervention Matchmaking changed everything. Susan broke through Mary’s reluctance with a plea to give some guy on Vancouver Island a 30-minute shot on the phone. “Thirty minutes? The first time we talked, the call lasted almost four hours,” gushes Mary. “On other calls, we talked as long as five and six hours. This guy is way more than just a nice guy. He’s very unusual. Intelligent, kind, with a sense of humour, and his conversational skills are epic.”

Susan had initially held back on showing Mary a photo of the guy. When she finally sent one, it was of a buff dude in a blazer. “I thought, well, he’s a nice looking man,” says Mary. “And wow, he’s really in very good shape. Even in a blazer I could still tell. That was different than what I’m used to – any athletic guys I had dated were built more like tennis players. But he was nice looking.”

Meanwhile on Vancouver Island, 67-year-old teacher Ian (not his real name) was falling hard for this sparkplug of a woman he had never met. And after nearly two months of marathon phone calls, it was time they got together.

“From the start, there was this affinity we felt for each other, and it grew into something more,” says Ian, a Clark Kent intellectual whose Superman years were spent in the world of pro sports.

Dinner, a ring, and a promise

Two months into their virtual dating, Ian didn’t just want to meet Mary. He wanted her to get acquainted with his adult son and his best friend, too. Mary agreed to the meeting, on her terms.

“At the time, I wasn’t feeling great about myself and didn’t want to dress up,” says Mary. “I told him: ‘There will be no high heels. There’s going to be nothing.’ He talked about places to go for dinner and I said: ‘I don’t want anything fancy. Would you mind just making dinner at home so we could have a quiet night and I can put my foot up?”

Ian agreed, made a yummy souvlaki dinner and baked a pie. It turns out the intellectual athlete could cook. He also let her chill while he headed to his home gym for a workout, check in to ice her ankle, and introduced her to the son he lived with.

“I adore his son,” she says. “The two of us get along like a house on fire.” The second time Mary visited Ian, he had a surprise for her: a sapphire ring he had picked out for her weeks before he met her face-to-face.

“When I bought the ring, I was thinking, you haven’t even kissed this woman or held her hand,” he recalls with a chuckle.

“We had this virtual relationship, but there was such a great mutual attraction. I had found someone who was from the heart, and cerebral. There’s just something about her giving spirit. What we have is just so natural and right. It’s hard to explain it.”

When Mary was presented with the wrapped gift, she guessed it was jewelry but wondered why, because Ian knew she didn’t wear much jewelry. “And then I saw the ring, and that’s when he said ‘I love you’,” she says.

A word of advice to others: Always have hope

Ian and Mary are in it for the long haul. Ian is renovating his Island home to accommodate Mary.

His advice to others working with his Susan is to trust her judgment.

“There were several women [with Divine Intervention] who showed interest, and she rejected the idea because she knew they wouldn’t be right for me,” he says. “I had about four dates through the service before I met Mary. She’s one Susan really thought could be a great match. I’m still pinching myself and wondering how this all happened.”

Mary can’t believe it either.

“This is a one-off, I’ll tell you that, “ she says. “I’ve never had that thing with somebody where we just clicked this much. I admire him, he’s a really good man, and we have so much fun together.”

*** names have been changed for privacy

Why people are not finding the right partner

After thousands of extensive interviews over 11 years with clients, matches and with those optimistic to find a partner, the team at Divine Intervention can’t help but notice that Vancouverites are dating predominantly based on geography—meaning they’re choosing location over more important items on their checklists.

Vancouverites simply have no idea they are doing this.

In our experience, Vancouverites believe they will fall in love with someone who lives within their neighbourhood proximity and that person will also have every quality they are looking for in a partner.

Here is a common example of what we encounter during our interviews: